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It’s True!: Happiness IS Contagious!

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The word “contagious” has a terribly tainted rap. Understandably so, considering many associate it with the flu and Zika. However,….n outbreak of happiness is far less likely to make us prisoners of our own bodies.

Scientific research suggests that somebody’s happiness is so contagious and will make you crave it (Jazze made it). Happiness can refer to a way of thinking, such as being optimistic, a feeling joy, pleasure, relief, or gratitude, or simply a way of being.

Professor Nicholas Christakis teaches medical sociology and medicine at Harvard Medical School. He researched the contagion of emotions within social networks (no, not on Facebook, groups of people). His studies suggest that “…having a happy friend who lives within a mile of you…appears to increase the probability that you will be happy as well”.

His findings support the common claim that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. So, think of your social circle on campus, and ask yourself:

  • Do I have fun with these people?
  • Does being with them make me feel optimistic about life?
  • Do they laugh with me instead of at me?
  • Do I feel light and free or bogged down after being with them?

Rather than wondering how we can become happier, “we should be asking how we can increase happiness all around us. When you make positive changes in your own life, those effects ripple out from you and you can find yourself surrounded by the very thing you fostered”.

Your Friendly Neighborhood Optimist and WTH Blogger,

Mary Mik

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LGBT: Everything You Need to Succeed in the Gay Dating Game!

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Congratulations! You have successfully accepted that you like the same sex! Bravo! You are comfortable with your sexuality, you are happy with who you are, and now you’re ready to start dating… Oh. Crap. I don’t know how to do that! Who am I looking for? Why can’t I find anyone? How do I ask someone out? Do they ask me out? HELP ME!!!!

Okay. First of all, take a breath. This is not something scary! There is no reason to fear finally embracing who you are, and I can guarantee that you will meet people just like you. Having said that, finding other LGBT people isn’t that easy, because unfortunately, there aren’t many people walking around with a name tag saying “Hi, my name is ____, and my sexual orientation is ____. I couldn’t agree more that assuming everyone is straight is an annoying stereotype, however that’s the reality of our world. BUT there’s someone out there for you, so let’s go find them!

Figure Out What You Like

First, establish your “type.” Do you like a certain eye color? Hair color? Body type? Age? Religion? What kind of personality? Set a standard for yourself before you search. Don’t settle for someone you aren’t attracted to just because they are gay like you! Dating isn’t fun if you are with a great person you aren’t attracted to, or with the most beautiful human ever with the personality of a lampshade. This goes for everybody looking to date out there, both gay and straight, because how are you going to be with someone you don’t actually enjoy being around?

Invest in the Dating Apps

It is the 21st century. If you do not have a dating app on your phone, you are doing something wrong! They are the BEST way to meet the LGBT community around you, because you can set specific preferences for who you are looking for on them. For ladies, we have HER. For men, they have Grindr. But what about Tinder and Bumble? You can actually set your sexual orientation to only have men and/or women pop up, depending on what you want! I understand if you still get weirded out by “online dating,” but would it really hurt to try? In this day in age, almost all college students—and all people for that matter— use electronics for communication; why not use it to find the love of your life?!

Don’t Feel You Have to Fit a Stereotype!

There is no specific “role” you have to play in your community. You do not have to be “pitcher or catcher” or “bitch or butch.” If you like someone, ask them out. If someone likes you and maybe you failed to see it or just got nervous, they will ask you out. The worst they/you could say is “no.” And that’s perfectly okay! Rejection is an important and necessary process of dating in general, because it is a way for you to find yourself and the love of your life. Yeah, sure, it hurts, but it is just giving you the opportunity to find somebody who DOES want to date you later on in life.  If you are someone who is more comfortable being a follower instead of a leader, just make it a fair game. If you like someone, flirt with them. You don’t have to jump the gun and ask them to marry you, but at least give them a chance to see you’re interested. That way, you won’t be disappointed and they won’t be having constant migraines trying to figure your brain out.

Embrace It!

Wow! You’re on your first “Gay Date!” No, this is where I am going to let you go. Only YOU can decide who is right for you. My job was to simply guide you to the “Rainbow Brick Road.” However, remember this: you have your standard set, you have your confidence up, and you know what you are looking for, so accomplish your goal! Ask the right questions, be charming, and just know that if you get rejected, there is someone else. There could always be someone else. And at the end of the day, dating is dating. It is terrifying for every sex, but it is also possible for every sex to find their true love. I wish you the best of luck. Fly free, my little Unicorn!

By: Megan Bloomfield

"Love Your Body, Love Yourself"

Dear Diary: Why Writing In a Journal Shouldn’t Just Be A Thing You Do In Class

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Dear You: Why You Should Be Writing Letters to Yourself!

You write for class, and you write to your friends (mainly through iMessage and Snapchat messenger), but when was the last time you wrote to and for yourself? When was the last time you opened your mind and put your thoughts and emotions into words? And no, writing a Facebook status that starts,“I usually don’t talk about politics on social media, but…” doesn’t count. Writing your thoughts down is one of the most intimate and intense ways you can connect with yourself. 

When was the last time you physically wrote?

Anybody can choose Helvetica, Times New Roman, or even Comic Sans (please limit your usage of Comic Sans) to “write,” but nobody can write a letter exactly how you do. To see your thoughts in your writing will encourage you more to push onward towards goals you set and resonate with emotions you feel. Writing on paper turns intangible thoughts, goals, and thoughts into physical artifacts from moments in time that are unable to be relieved. Handwriting does this better than any generic typeface ever could.

Why should you write?

Writing to and for yourself provides a way to relieve your feelings and outer stresses free of criticism. It also enables you to organize the ambiguity that may swirl inside your head. This alone time allows you to write and not worry about proper grammar, correct spelling, or even if your sentences and thoughts make sense. In other words, you can pour your heart out under no constraints that you would otherwise experience in group settings (e.g. having to sift out words deemed inappropriate, off-putting, or strange in order to be accepted by others). This safe space alone will provide relief for you to express your true self. Organizing your thoughts and goals will decompress any exasperating mental tension too.

It’s Never Too Late to Begin!

Start today. Tomorrow. Even a week from now. You deserve this. Give yourself this space and this time, but don’t let it be a one time experience. Habitual handwriting will allow you to reflect on the progression of your physical, mental, and emotional wellness.

Today, challenge yourself to:

  • close your laptop.
  • switch on the “Do Not Disturb” setting on your phone or completely power it down.
  • find a space where you can focus all your energy on listening to your thoughts
  • disconnect with the world to reconnect with yourself.

You hold the potential to be your greatest support system. It’s right in the palm of your hand.

By: Mary Mik

"Love Your Body, Love Yourself"

YOU are the “Dancing Queen”: Our Favorite Songs to Get You Feeling Good!

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Have you seen those people on campus with earbuds in, who bounce their legs and bob their heads to music nobody else can hear? Yep. I’m that girl.

Music and dance are universal languages that connect people beyond everyday speech. Parties, raves, and concerts wouldn’t be what we know them as today without these two crucial elements. Even if we don’t have the time or cash to spend on these outings, that shouldn’t stop us from celebrating each day with music. Music is the solution for all those emotions you are feeling. It’s also the thing that can boost you up, and keep you going, which is something we all need to keep partying this “Hallo-weekend!”

Here are our five favorite music videos that not only have catchy songs, but will inspire you to just breakout and dance. Because honestly, it’s amazing what dancing around and singing in your underwear can do for your mood. 

 


1.) Bruno Mars—“24K Magic”

Shining moment: 1:23

I think they just became smoother than a smoothie.

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URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqyT8IEBkvY

 

2.) The B-52’s—“Love Shack”

Shining moment: 1:44

I’ve never seen so much fringe shake so vigorously. Props, Ms. Pierson.

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URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9SOryJvTAGs

 

3.) Kiesza—“Hideaway”

Shining moment: 3:04

If you ever see me dance in my room, this is what I imagine I look like, though I’m probably far from it.

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URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vnoz5uBEWOA

 

4.) Sara Bareilles—“Brave”

Shining moment: 3:45

Yes. Yes, he is, sir.

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URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUQsqBqxoR4

 

5.) OutKast—“Hey Ya!””

Shining moment: 4:07

This was probably the first moment Polaroid’s stocks skyrocketed in the 21st century.

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URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PWgvGjAhvIw

 

Your Friendly Neighborhood Leg Bouncer, Head Bobber, and What the Health Blogger,

Mary Mik

"Love Your Body, Love Yourself"

Why You Should be Your OWN Best Friend!

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Loving the way you look is a major part in constructing a powerful foundation for self-confidence. Here are some tips to become your absolute favorite person, your greatest cheerleader, and your best friend:

1.) Find more positive social media.

Do you gawk over Kylie’s lips, Casey Neistat’s lifestyle, or Michelle Phan’s makeup skills? Are you motivated by those you watch and follow, or do you find yourself envious and disheartened when you look at other girls on Instagram and compare yourself? If you chose the latter, clean out your social media. Turn your eyes from those who drain you to those who drive you to be the best possible version of yourself.

2.) Find your greatest qualities.

What about YOU makes YOU feel on top of the world? Jot down one physical and one personality characteristic you adore about yourself. Though you shouldn’t struggle to discover two remarkable traits about yourself, reach out to someone who knows you well if you do. Ask them to list and explain, in writing, one physical and one personality trait that makes you unique and incredible. Resist doubting their words! Put this paper where you look frequently (e.g. on your mirror, inside your laptop case) to remind yourself that you are worth it and truly one of a kind.

3.) Find what makes you feel alive.

Have you experienced someone who is both confident and sad at the same time? Nope! That’s because happiness and self-confidence are strongly related. Head to an a cappella show on campus, FaceTime a family member (and your dog) from home, or dance in your room before your roommates come back from class. They’ll never even know! Each day, engage in something that resonates with your soul. Write down what you did and how it made you feel. Reflect on these activities to bring you both gratitude and happiness and ultimately will help generate a stronger confidence and motivation to get out there and participate in the world with no fear!

By: Mary Mik

"Love Your Body, Love Yourself"

Learning to Love the Scale

For any college student trying to lose weight, the most dreaded activity of the process can be stepping on a scale. Even after a diet transformation and the adoption of a strict workout regimen, the number read on a scale can make or break a person’s confidence. Eager for positive results, some people will obsessively… Continue reading Learning to Love the Scale