Sex + Relationships

Long Distance Relationships: Love vs. Miles


By: Molly Velaquez-Brown

Being away from your significant other for an extended period of time is one of the most difficult things you can put your heart through. When you find a person you want to be in a relationship with, they are generally your partner, best friend, and lover, which makes the distance in long distance relationships difficult handle.

Luckily, with facetiming, snapchatting, instagraming, and other ways to stay in touch, the miles can feel a little smaller. But nothing quite compares to being able to hug, kiss, and cuddle the one you love. As someone who is currently in a long distance relationship, I can personally attest to how hard it is. The miles between you and your partner can leave you feeling lonely, sad, and worrying if your relationship will last. But if your love is real, it will prevail one way or another. Here are some tips to help keep your relationship happy, healthy, and loving even if you and your partner are a plane ride away!

Set Specific Dates!

Make sure you both set aside time to watch a movie, have a meal, or do something together via skype, facetime, or phone call. Having dates, even if they cannot be in person, is important! There is no replacement for quality time with the person you love. Movie dates can be especially fun for long term long distance couples. Get on facetime, pick a movie you both like on Netflix, start it at the same time, and cuddle up in bed. You might be surprised how much closer it makes you feel to your partner even from miles away.

Say Good Morning and Good Night!

A simple “good morning” or “good night” text or call can mean the world. Reminding your partner that they are on your mind when you wake up and before you go to sleep is very impactful. Plus, who doesn’t love waking up in the morning to a sweet “good morning” text? Best way to start the day! This one is especially important for couples who are long distance with a time difference. When you’re on very different schedule,s being reminded that your partner thinks of you at the beginning and end of their day can make you feel more confident and secure in your relationship.

Random Acts of Love

An unexpected cute text, sending flowers, a sweet card, or even just an Instagram post can really brighten up your partner’s day and remind them how important they are to you. It really is the little things that matter most. Big gifts and gestures of affection are great, but they can’t happen every day and you shouldn’t have to wait for holidays or birthdays to show your partner how much you care!

Just Be in Each Other’s Presence

Even if you are busy writing papers, studying for a test, or making dinner,  just having your partner quietly around can be impactful. You can both do your own thing, but just having them on facetime or a phone call can make you feel closer. We take for granted the time we spend just hanging out, which is something that is generally lacking in long distance relationships. Honestly, while writing this article I’m facetiming with my boyfriend! We aren’t really talking, (he’s binge watching BuzzFeed videos) but just having him around and hearing his laugh while I work makes us feel closer.