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Making Time for Your Relationship

College can seem to be one big balancing act. As a student, you need to juggle schoolwork, clubs, going out, and to top it off, being in a relationship. With so much on your plate, maintaining a relationship can seem nearly impossible at times. However, there are ways to overcome that feeling of despair. You just need to get creative with your significant other so that you don’t succumb to the deal-breaking phrase, “I just don’t have time.” Aside from going out together on the weekend, here is a list of possible activities you can do during the week to make time for your relationship.

• Grab a bite to eat. Yes, this might sound like a common answer for spending more time together, but don’t just have dinner together. If neither of you have a morning class, grab a cup of coffee or get a smoothie during the day when you have a little break. These short, but sweet meet-ups can definitely make the day more bearable when you’re apart. Rather than thinking you won’t get to see your significant other until the weekend, this method means that you just have to make it through class, which is much easier.

• Study together. Even if you and your significant other don’t have classes together, you shouldn’t let that stop you from studying together. Studying in the same area lets you both be productive while spending time together. Give yourself an incentive to finish a chapter of reading, the reward being relaxing with each other for a couple of minutes.

• Do laundry. Doing your laundry every couple of weeks takes roughly an hour and a half of your day. During that time you probably put your load of dirty clothes into the washer, waste 30 minutes, then switch it over to the dryer and repeat for an hour. Rather than letting this routine get in the way, do laundry with your partner so you can spend time with him or her while you’re being productive. Essentially, you’re killing two birds with one stone: getting clean-smelling sheets while being with your favorite person.

• Workout. Before you groan about the idea of having your boyfriend or girlfriend see you all flushed and sweaty, consider this: You need to make time in your week to workout, so why not do it together? In the process of burning calories, your partner could potentially give you some tips, keep you company, and if you’re lucky, help you stretch. To quote the ever-wise Elle Woods, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy.” So be happy with your partner!

Making time for a relationship in college is hard, but it is possible. Think of all the ordinary things you have to do and just try to do them with your partner. If you can give your relationship a little extra time and make it fit into your schedule, then you won’t feel the added pressure of managing your relationship on top of all of your daily needs.

By Jessica Levy