We’ve all had them or will have them at some point in our lifetime. What am I talking about? Well, the inevitable infamous awkward hookup of course! Now, I’m not talking about the really bad hookup, I’m talking about one that went well but you have to see that person again and again. These hookups don’t have to be as awkward as we make them. Many times things can go on just fine, we just make them stranger than they need to be. Here are some tips on how to keep these hookups just hookups and not awkward.
Don’t Change How You Act
If you’ve never really gone out of your way to say “hello” to this person before, don’t do it now. If you always say “hey” when you see them, keep it up! Don’t switch how you’ve always acted around this person. A lot of times people change and it makes everything more awkward than it has to be. If you keep your relationship normal then chances are no one will ever know what happened. Everything will appear normal, keeping the awkward scale on the lower end.
Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid
Ok, so this hook up happened. Sometimes it’s better just not to talk about the fact that it happened. This means between the two of you and with others. First rule in avoiding the awkwardness is don’t tell anyone else what happened. If you want to keep it to a minimum do not spread it around so that everyone else can stare and be awkward and make you feel even more awkward. Next, ever think that not talking about your hookup with your hookup could help alleviate the awkwardness. Yes, we all know this hookup was fun and great but you don’t necessarily need to tell the other person that. Sometimes not talking about it may just make the awkwardness disappear. I’m not saying act like it never happened but don’t make a whole conversation off of it. That just is a buzz kill on keeping it normal no matter what.
Let It Be
The more you keep questioning it the more awkward it will be. It happened. That’s it. There is nothing you can do about it. If it was a good hookup, great! If not, oh well! We tend to hold on to these things and let them consume us for far too long. If we could just let them go and accept them as things that have happened, we would be able to avoid almost all of the awkwardness. Just let it be. I promise you, it will make a world of difference!
So while some awkwardness will always come along with these situations it does not need to get over the top. If we just accept what happened and try our best to act and stay normal then there should be no issues. If you are mature enough to get into this situation you have to be mature enough to handle it. So handle it wisely and it won’t turn into an awkward, inescapable nightmare. It could be just what it is: a hookup that didn’t change a thing.
By Samantha Breault