You get back to your dorm after an exhausting day and your roommate is there with a few friends you’ve never met. You want to make a good impression, but she makes a snarky comment that ticks you off. Do you ignore her and give the silent treatment, or get defensive and confront her then and there? A recent study suggest that staying silent is a good way to keep the bullies away.
The study placed 120 college students in a room with either a gentleman or a jerk. Half the students were told to have a conversation with the person they were placed with, while the other half was told to completely ignore him. Participants then had to carefully and thoughtfully complete an assignment.
The results showed that students who spoke to the jerk had worse results on the assignment than those who simply disregarded the douche. However, this doesn’t mean you should ignore every rude person you encounter. Sometimes, you have to stand up for yourself when necessary. To help you out, we’ve come up with a few scenarios of when to be the bigger person and when to speak up.
Your mom or dad calls to remind you of important dates coming up like Thanksgiving, or to check up on you to make sure you’re studying.
Deal with it. As college students it can sometimes be annoying to have your parents call so much when you’re enjoying a day with your friends, partying, or doing important assignments. But remember, they are your parents – the most important people in your life. They call because they worry. So don’t ignore, and answer that call! Because you will miss them after.
Your roommate constantly has friends over and they are really loud while you’re trying to study.
Deal with it. Remember you are both sharing a space together and as roommates should respect each other. If you have separate rooms, each with the doors shut, but can still hear the conversation – confront her about it. Otherwise, move to a study lounge down the hall.
Someone cuts the line at Pages Café or Starbucks.
Ignore Completely. You’ll only be making a fool of yourself for pointing out that someone cut the line in front of you. And since it’s not going to make your food or coffee appear in your hands that much faster, it will just worsen your mood for the rest of the day.
By Gilmarie Perea-Ruiz