Sex + Relationships

Finding Your Balance from A to Chi: A Must-Have in Any Relationship

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Have you ever thought about the one non-negotiable trait you seek in a partner? While many times people say “attractive” or “good sense of humor” when talking about their ideal boyfriend or girlfriend, one crucial characteristic is constantly overlooked: effective communicator. Far too often, problems in relationships arise when one person does not communicate their feelings adequately, withholds information, or is not open with the other person. Even though these may appear to be three seemingly different scenarios, they all deal with communication. Effective communication is key to a successful relationship, and ensures longevity and happiness in the future.

Since all relationships are built on trust and mutuality, being able to communicate effectively with your partner is imperative. While you may be in constant communication with your boyfriend or girlfriend throughout the day via text messages, phone calls, or Skype sessions, what you say to one another is important. Whether something is bothering you within the relationship or you have something significant to tell your partner, you should feel comfortable enough to share. If you feel as though you cannot express your feelings or open up, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship. Being able to be honest with one another is central to the success of your relationship, and will only make it stronger.

Even though this may seem cliché, your significant other really does double as your best friend. At the end of the day, he or she is the one you share everything with – what’s happening in your life, your personal feelings and struggles, etc. – and you rely heavily on him or her for emotional support. Being able to talk about these sorts of things is crucial to your relationship, and will only deepen your connection with one another. And the more you work to strengthen your communication, the better your relationship will be.

If you feel as though communication between you and your significant other could be stronger, now is the time for change. Do not be afraid to sit down and talk about how you two can communicate more effectively, because in the long run, you are only bettering your relationship and building on a stronger foundation. And as time goes on, you will be able to look back and see how far you two have come.

By Eva Zymaris