Sex + Relationships

Finding Your Balance from A to Chi: Stuck in the Friend Zone

College is supposed to be the best four years of your life, so why not love every minute of it?

The friend zone: We’ve all been there, and we’ve all put some of our very own friends there. But your friendship may have the potential to turn into a successful relationship. While your friend may not feel the same way, it may just be because they have never thought of you as more than a friend. Our biggest regrets in life are always the risks we never take, so don’t be afraid — tell your friend how you really feel. Even though it may not turn out in your favor, you never quite know what might happen next.

Especially since your crush is also one of your friends, there’s no such thing as pining from afar. Whether you travel in the same social circle or sit next to each other in class, you will unavoidably see him or her each and every week. As opposed to suppressing your feelings and playing it cool, have you ever thought about telling your friend how you really feel? While this may be nerve wracking, especially if there’s a chance he or she may not feel the same way, it is much better to be open and honest. If you are too afraid to share your feelings because of the fear of rejection, you may be missing out on the opportunity to have an incredible relationship.

Ruining your friendship is always the number one concern when it comes to telling a friend you secretly have feelings for him or her. While this concern may be valid, it should never hold you back from telling your friend how you feel. Opening up about your feelings does not have to be stressful – start off slowly by asking your friend to grab a cup of coffee or a bite to eat. From there, you will be able to gauge how you two interact on a one-on-one level. If you feel comfortable, just go for it. What do you have to lose? Even if he or she doesn’t’t feel the same way or things become a tad awkward for a couple of weeks, you’ll feel much more relieved after the fact. By being honest, you will be able to move on and not have those lingering “what if” factors eating away at you.

No one ever wants to be stuck in the friend zone. And if you are placed there by your crush, do not be afraid to act on it. Being open and honest about your feelings is crucial, and you never know exactly what will happen.

By Eva Zymaris