Sex + Relationships

Finding Your Balance from A to Chi: The Pressure to Find “Prince Charming”

College is supposed to be the best four years of your life, so why not love every minute of it?

Once you enter college, it seems as though all the different areas of your life are coming together. Not only are you building a strong network of friends away at school, but you are also establishing the foundation for your future career. While these things may be coming together perfectly, have you ever felt as though one area of your life remains incomplete? Especially at this age, some individuals may feel pressured about finding their significant other. Even though everyone has his or her own individual story, and may be at different points in the journey, the “happily ever after” chapter seems to be quickly approaching. And because of this, some people worry they have not found their “Prince Charming” just yet.  But don’t stress — you never know when your fairytale may be lurking around the next corner.

Growing up, children’s books and films always portrayed love conquering evil. And as you got older, similar messages and depictions of love ensued. Have you ever sat back and thought to yourself, “Why isn’t my life like that?” Far too often, we put pressure on ourselves for not having a “movie-worthy” romance and constantly question whether or not we ever will. Especially now, because of technology and a wide range of “labels”, it seems as though relationships are much more complicated. But the great thing about love is that you never quite know when you are going to find it. Just take a deep breath, relax, and keep yourself open to all opportunities. You never know just when love will sneak up on you and turn your whole world upside-down.

Especially since individuals always question whether or not they will find their soul mate, they often settle for someone “just because.” You may be worried that there isn’t a special someone out there for you, or you may think this is the best you can do. The moment you begin sacrificing the important qualities you look for in a partner and begin losing faith you’ll find your “happily ever after,” the moment you enter a downward spiral of relationship disasters. Never settle for the sake of being in a relationship, or because you think the situation will get better. If you aren’t going to be fully invested, it’s not worth your time. And you never know — you may be missing out on the chance to meet someone truly special.

Finally finding your “Prince Charming” is an incredible feeling. But never put pressure on yourself if you have not met that special someone just yet. The key to finding your “perfect partner” is to keep yourself open to all of the possibilities, because you never quite know what will happen. You may be completely blindsided and surprised by the love you find, and I can’t think of any better fairytale than that.

By Eva Zymaris