Sex + Relationships

Finding Your Balance from A to Chi: Obsessive Relationships

College is supposed to be the best four years of your life, so why not love every minute of it?

Especially in the beginning of a relationship, it is always exciting to spend time with your new significant other. While the “honeymoon phase” usually lasts about a couple of months, sometimes it can last much longer. What if a couple cannot spend time apart from one another? Being able to maintain your independence within a relationship is key; otherwise you may find yourself in the “obsessive relationship” category.

There is such a dependency on technology in today’s world, traveling with cell phones, laptops, tablets, etc. Even though keeping in touch with your boyfriend or girlfriend may be very easy, this does not mean you have to be in constant communication with one another.  When you become so wrapped up in your texting conversation, you aren’t present in the moment. You two should be able to “take a breather” and put the phones down. If you two can’t spend any time apart, you may have to rethink some of your priorities.

Because of this reliance on your partner, you may begin isolating yourself from your friends. When you’re in a relationship, you must learn to balance love and friends. If you find yourself constantly blowing off your friends just to hang out with your significant other, start treading carefully. There may come a point where your relationship ends and you have no one to fall back on.

Relationships are wonderful, and feeling loved by someone is great. But being able to balance all aspects of your life and maintaining your independence is key. By giving yourself some breathing room, you’ll be able to appreciate the precious moments you have together.

By Eva Zymaris