College is supposed to be the best four years of your life, so why not love every minute of it?
There is nothing more exciting than having a new significant other in your life. The thrill, the curiosity, and the novelty can be all encapsulating, but unfortunately, that means that your focus and attention may begin to fade in other aspects in your life, like relationships with your friends. While you may want to spend every single second of every day with your new love, you have to strike the perfect balance between love and friends. Otherwise, you will be following a dangerous path doomed for failure.
In the beginning of relationships you enter the “honeymoon stage,” where everything appears to be perfect. During this time, your main focus may shift from friends to your relationship. The key to making relationships work is learning how to balance all of the different relationships in your life. Just because you start to channel all of your energy to your beaux doesn’t mean that your friends’ lives are going to stop and wait for you for you to catch up. What happens if your relationship takes a turn for the worst and you’ve completely neglected your friends? You will feel more isolated and alone than ever before.
When it comes to your relationships, designate time for both your significant other and your friends. By doing so, you will be able to satisfy both areas of your life, striking the perfect balance. There are two easy ways to do this: First, choose one night on the weekends for “friend” night and the other for “date” night. By doing so, you will be able to split your time equally. Second, integrate your two worlds into one by introducing your friends to your boyfriend or girlfriend’s friends. Not only will your balancing act become easier, but you will also be able to expand your social network and have all of your favorite people in one place.
Healthy relationships emerge from balanced lifestyles. By planning your time and dividing your attention equally to all aspects of your life, establishing the perfect relationship becomes simple.
By Eva Zymaris