College is supposed to the best four years of your life, so why not love every minute of it?
At this age, many of us have already experienced our “first love.” Whether that feeling is reciprocated or not is a different story. Have you ever had an ex, “just a friend,” or a long-lasting crush that you just can’t seem to get off your mind? That no matter how hard you try, they are always the one person that you find yourself going back to? And as a result, you constantly blame yourself for the relationship not working, not turning out the way you had hoped, or not being the “perfect match” that you had hyped up in your mind. While the phrase “it’s not you, it’s me” may be deemed cliché, have you ever thought that maybe it actually holds some truth?
Far too often we tend to take complete responsibility for a failed relationship or unreciprocated feelings. Even if something is over, we are left continuously racking our brains for signs of where things went wrong and where things could have been improved. Have you ever thought that maybe it really was their fault? Instead of telling yourself that you have to change in order to fit the other person’s criteria, think of this as your opportunity to move on and be the person that you want to be. Relationships should always be about give and take, so do not get yourself into the routine of making personal adjustments in order to make a sinking ship float. Sooner or later, you will be left unable to recognize the person that you have become.
College is one of our last opportunities to be immersed in an environment with people our own age. If you spend all of your time pining over someone who’s just not worth it, you may overlook an opportunity to meet someone special: someone who will be there for you no matter what, and someone who will love you for being you. Why waste your time on a person who doesn’t appreciate who you are as an individual? You may miss the chance to find true happiness.
If this article is something that you can relate to, I have a challenge for you: While tomorrow may be just like any other day, make it the beginning of a new you, a you that is not tied down by the past or by the person that you think you should be. Be true to yourself and love will always find its way into your heart.
By Eva Zymaris