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Relationships: Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?

Summer. For those who aren’t slaving away at work in the real world, this means three whole months of lounging poolside, toasting marshmallows at bonfires, playing pickup volleyball in the sand, and hooking up with different people at different parties. Then the text messages start flowing, and random make-out sessions turn into weekly affairs. Some lucky few manage to turn their summertime scandals into Facebook-official romances.

August fades to September, and the leaves change color. Newfound lovers must part ways and return to school, but first, they must face the ultimate question: stay together or break up?

And so, a long and grueling quest for the answer begins. To make the process easier on yourself, keep these do’s and don’ts in mind:

DO:
Give it a try. Obviously, you two ended up together because of a connection deeper than just physical attraction. Unless there is a mutual agreement to date other people, see how things work for a month or so.
DON’T:
Agree to stay together but find someone new. If you have moved on, let your significant other know. Don’t make things harder.
DO:
Set dates and times to meet up. Check when both of your schedules allow for a reunion. It will be especially refreshing when you finally see each other again.
DON’T:
Clear your entire schedule just to make time to meet up. Your schoolwork will pile up, and your friends will become exasperated that you’re constantly trying to find a way home. Balance is key.
DO:
Keep in contact: With all the technology that’s available, your boyfriend or girlfriend is always just within reach. A phone call or text always lets them know you’re thinking about him or her.
DON’T:
Stalk Facebook: It will drive you crazy. Any girl that suggests studying together to your boyfriend and every guy that likes a photo of your girlfriend is not necessarily a threat. Remember that you are the one in the relationship; don’t let insecurities take hold of you.
DO:
What is best for you. Only you will know exactly what that is.

By Tina Ferraro

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