by Brittany Fuino, blogger
A wandering mind may lead to an unhappy one, says Harvard doctoral student Matthew Killingsworth. He came up with trackyourhappiness.org to get to the bottom of what makes us blue. Daydreaming causes us to mull over what could be rather than what is. Hone in on what makes you happy moment to moment- blindly focusing on the big picture can leave you feeling like a real Debbie Downer when you don’t quite meet all of your expectations.
Take, for instance, your morning cup o’ joe. Setting aside a few moments to savor your brew is something many people forget to do. Do you truly enjoy your coffee, or if you’re like me, you might employ the “plug and chug” method (i.e., laziness leading to unmeasured coffee grounds leading to an uber-strong, plug your nose and down it like it’s cheap vodka kind of coffee). Not exactly an enjoyable wake-me-up, but it gets the job done. Many people glorify happiness, but taking the time to find the good in your daily activities will get you farther than aspiring to makeover/re-vamp your entire life in one foul swoop.
Exercise, engaging conversations, and a steamy sack sesh with your significant other are activities in which you are most likely to stay in the present and stave off sadness, Killingsworth’s study says. No surprise here—the biggest fun-suckers are work and rest (when our minds are most likely to wander). Whether you “ohm” your way to happiness through yoga or meditation or get in a heated debate with your roommate, keep your day dreaming to a minimum and your work efficacy to a max (and your coffee tasty), and enjoy life’s little pleasures that come your way.